Sunday, September 2, 2018

Staying Sober on the Holidays and the Hard Days

This post is for my #soberwarriors #sobercurious or just plain #sober on the holidays and the hard days...

Holidays and special occasions can be hard! There is so much normalization around drinking and partying around the holidays and special occasions.  
But what about those of us who are committed to their sobriety? I think it’s important to acknowledge the emotions, frustrations, fears, sadness, etc. that come up in times like these.

You’re not alone. 

I love the holidays and I’m always super excited to be fully present for the festivities. But I also still tend to get slightly triggered because to be around family & loved ones usually means to be in situations where I used to be part of the party, and now I'm the odd one out because I'm not. 

Don’t get me wrong, I used to be right there with them. I’m not better than anyone just because I don’t drink anymore. I absolutely love my people and must be clear that I’m not casting judgement. To each their own! Everyone is at their own place in this crazy thing called life and I respect that.  

But sometimes, for those of us who used to drink, it can be personally frustrating that so many holidays are inundated and saturated with drinking. Going to events and certain places feels lonely sometimes. We can easily be triggered by memories and/or people who try to persuade us to come off "the wagon." 

Not everyone who chooses this path can or should put themselves in certain environments where temptation could be an issue. There was certainly a time for me when that was not a good idea. And I still have to be my own judge and advocate for my sobriety. It’s way too important to me to get complacent about it. 

There is nothing wrong with doing what is right for you, protecting your sobriety, and saying no to things that you're not comfortable with. The important thing is that you keep conscious and take actions that work for you. 

Know and prepare for what you're getting into and have a back up plan if it doesn't work out. If you need to leave, leave. If you need to call someone, pick up the phone. 

No matter who you are, sobriety and recovery takes a constant awareness of one’s self. We don’t get to flounder around and take chances with ourselves on this path. Not if we want to stay on it. 

Keep at the forefront of your mind all of the reasons why your sobriety is your priority. 
And still, acknowledge all of the thoughts & emotions that sneak up along the way. Talk it all out with someone and know that you're not alone in feeling the way that you do.

Wherever you are on this journey, please know that you’re not alone. It doesn’t matter what it looks like on social media, or how much time you have under your belt. 

We’re all just human beings doing this thing one day at a time. None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles that come up. No one is strong ALL of the time. 

Make sure to reach out if you need help or support. We’re in this together! 

Always love,

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