Friday, September 7, 2018
Too Many Rules, Not Enough Fun!
I'm coming out of a bit of a funk over the last week or so and took a few days off from my writing to let myself get through it.
Over the last few years I have learned the importance of taking some down time when you need it. I used to push myself beyond exhaustion to get things done while simultaneously driving myself and everyone around me crazy.
There's definitely a time for stepping back and saying no and not showing up for things.
There's also a time for pushing through the down times when you're really committed to something. Sometimes it's the pushing through that gets you to the uncomfortable places you need to go to reach your goals.
The trick is getting to know yourself so much and so deeply that you can decipher and be your own judge for stepping back or pushing through. This takes years to learn and I don't know if we ever get it right 100% of the time.
Either way, I always learn (or remember) something...
First, I took a week or two off from my workouts after I had gotten super sick and fell off of my routine. This week I got back to it and it almost instantly shifted my funk. Seriously, exercise is SO crucial for our mental well being!!! Perhaps even more so than physically. But we already knew that, so this was just a good reminder. I digress...
Then, some time laughing with my kids this week and some coffee chat with some soul sisters tonight reminded me that I way too often take life way too seriously! Does anyone else do this? ;)
We spend so much time being busy, getting things done, taking care of the kids, the house, etc. topped with (if you're like me) being on a constant quest to learn and better ourselves, always on a mission to live our best lives.
But sometimes, at least for me, this gets way too serious and I get so wrapped up in trying to get it all right and be my best that I lose sight of enjoying life and having FUN. This is a trap that I catch myself in quite often.
What is the point of all the hard work and hustle if you're not having fun?! Are we just here to work until we die?! I don't think so!
I think we can actually make ourselves sick or sad or even depressed if we're not making the time to enjoy this life a little more. Maybe a LOT more.
When I was a drinker, that was how I let loose and had "fun" even though it never really ended in very much fun. Especially on the days after. Especially toward the end of it all.
Also, I've always picked partners that were fun and brought out the lighter side of life for me.
Now there is no more booze and currently no man to bring it out of me, so aside from my kiddos, life has mostly become a little too serious lately.
So now it's time to bring another kind of balance to this life I'm creating...
Find more ways to have more fun!!
laughter - that deep belly, come to tears laughter
letting loose - that uncomfortable kind of letting loose that makes you feel more free
dancing like no one's watching
singing like no one can hear - even if they can
What are some of the ways that you have fun in your life? Share them with me! Let's share some together!
In love and fun :)))